the mother matters too

Ignorant phrases such as all that matters is a healthy baby, all that matters is that baby arrives safely really do nothing to support women to come forward and talk about their traumatic birth experiences. These phrases just add to the guilt which renders traumatised new mothers mute. Don't get me wrong, I certainly understand and fully agree that a healthy baby is one of the most important things but the mother also matters, her emotional and physical well being matter. After any trauma a woman needs and deserves support, she certainly doesn't need to be subjected to ignorant phrases that will make her feel worse.