Sometimes I'm not sure if I should write about the tantrums because a lot of what I read in other blogs is highly positive. I find that silencing so perhaps other mother do to. I hope so anyway, I'd hate to think it was just me.
So, to hell with silencing, Bug had two meltdowns today. The first was sort of a disruption to what was happening. My sister was up with N and L. Not long before she left they were drawing pictures. Bug had the pictures together on the floor but then, understandably, N wanted his picture. Boom.
Bug's normal bath routine is bath, dried in bathroom, downstairs for cream (to help keep his eczema at bay) and then pyjamas on. Done. Well tonight, instead of drying him upstairs we came downstairs thinking I'd just dry him downstairs and then put towel in wash. It seemed so trivial but once the routine changed that was it. There was no going back and it escalated to a screaming meltdown.
Once he was in his bed and calmed down he then came back downstairs where he just cuddled into me for 40 minutes.
My sweet boy. I do find it frustrating but I just want to help him so can express now he feels without getting so distressed.
He's is the most amazing talker. Some of what he comes out with is mind blowing. Seriously, which is why it's frustrating (I imagine for us both) when he can't seem to get out how he feels other than screaming and banging his head.
I can definitely appreciate that it's much more frustrating for him. I can imagine feeling that agitated, stressed, cheeks flushing with annoying and maybe a lack of understanding why but not knowing what to do with it. What's happening is beyond what he can process. I just wish I knew what to do to help.
One day at a time. Right?
To hell with silencing it. Damn right. Dont feel the need to hold back. As I've said before I hate how people pretend they have the perfect child and its all happy and perfect.
ReplyDeleteYou mentioned drying him downstairs 2nite which turned into him screaming. So maybe it is a solid routine he needs. Like, even if their is something different happening or going out then just give him notice and keep reminding him whats happening and what he needs to do? See if that helps.
I hope your ok. I thought I was helping when I took him upstairs to get him down for a nap. I just thought you might have needed a wee break from his tantrum. Although it took ages to get his nappy on.
You are doing an amazing job with him. I dont know how you cope with the tantrums. When boys have tantrums their more annoying and stressful. But with bug I see what you mean with his being such hard work. Hope your ok.
You know im here if you need anything x x
Thank you xx
ReplyDeleteAgree with echonl, don't silence your thoughts on your blog :-)
ReplyDeleteDoes sound like it's routine that he doesn't like to be changed, hope you're ok *hugs* xx