His meltdowns seem to be triggered by change and frustration. Sometimes frustration when something has changed. I'd written before about the meltdown triggered by drying him downstairs after his bath instead of upstairs. There's also times bug will ask me a question and if I don't give him the answer he is expecting he'll get frustrated and start to scream no. If I drive a different way to the childminders I'll need to explain why or else he will start to get upset. Some things are strange, or at least, they are to me, I'm sure they're very normal and important to bug. When we're talking about something he'll get upset if I try to talk about something else.
Routine seems to help. It's strange because even as a baby I never enforced any routine. I was very much baby led although I felt this was natural since breastfeeding is very much baby led. I suppose he needs his own routine for now. I'm sure whatever routine he needs will change with him.
My hand surgery is a week today and I'm worried how recovery is going to affect bug. There are going to be a few days that he won't be at the childminders or nursery. I'm worried he'll be upset at not going and then upset when he starts going again and it takes a while to get back into that routine. Upset is not really the right word. He is always delighted to see his childminder and I know he's enjoying nursery. I mean that he might not understand that I need to take him home and not understanding that he gets to go back.
When I say meltdown, I don't just mean a tantrum. What I mean is that he completely loses it. It's like he is that frustrated or overwhelmed and just isn't processing what's going on. There is absolutely no talking to him. All I can do is stay close to him until he calms back down. Once he calms back down he is back to being the wonderful, amazing, little boy that he is.
I'm considering speaking to my GP but I'm not sure. I'm sure it's just his age, he'll grow out of it, it's just his age... but what if it's not that simple?
Yeah when you said meltdown at first I assumed just an out of control tantrum until I seen what Bug was like. You must have the patience of a saint. Hope your ok. Your doing a brill job with him. Its good you've realised he needs to be told exactly whays happening, I hope its something he'll grow out of. But speaking to your GP. The one you like. Theirs no harm in it and she is lovely so its maybe good to mention to her, explain it all so she can maybe ive you advice etc on it.
ReplyDeleteJust explain to Bug about your surgery, and explain he'll be at home with you and not at nursery? See how it goes just now explaining tp him x x
It sounds like explaining to him why things have changed seems to help so I agree with echo about explaining the surgery, it may help. It can't hurt to mention it to gp either but I'm guessing they will put it down to his age too.
ReplyDeleteBig hugs for surgery! Xx
Awful ex :-( you have a lovely nose :-)
ReplyDeleteYeah I'm just worried it's going to be like last time, awkward and refuse to do it xx